Reflecting on anger
June 11, 2008I’ve come to the conclusion after reflecting on Tarn Taran Singh’s workshop, “Transforming Anger into Forgiveness”, that sometimes people, including myself, hurt others as a cry for help. I realized that most people who have caused me anger in my life didn’t do it to cause me pain, but because they needed help in their own lives. When I think of past actions that caused me pain I remember a person who discriminated against me for my dark brown hair and my tanned skin. She hurt me so much with the way she acted that I didn’t see that she was in pain. I was so blinded from taking her discrimination personally, that days later, when I saw her crying, I still didn’t get that she needed help.
When you are angry your entire energy consolidates into the wavelength of that angry though, you stay in anger perpetually. Your anger takes away nourishment from your body, takes away heat from your stomach and energy from your blood circulation. If you realize the cost you pay for moment of anger, you would never become angry. – Yogi Bhajan
Looking back I understand that I don’t know what people have gone through in their lives, but that I have the power not to take their reactions personally. Today I have decided to let go of that pain, that anger inside me which was damaging my body and mind; I learned to forgive. Maybe that painful situation was a test that I had to go through to learn to analyze situations before I get angry.
Gurupal Kaur
